What is the dominant language of love that you ‘speak’?

According to researchers, the 5 languages are:

acts of service, physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, and words of affirmation.

Every personality has a preferred way to receive and give love. In order to build stronger relationships and minimise mis-communication, it makes sense to understand the unique ways we each experience and express love.

I had never considered what my dominant “languages” are or why it is important to be aware of how I prefer to give and receive love, until I did the quiz with my partner. The results seem to explain one reason our relationship feels so easeful, because we share the same dominant languages of love.

We both value quality time and physical touch very highly and the rest of our scores are also spookily similar.

These results also explain why I feel less at peace since working full time. Quality time with friends and hugging are much less frequent than before, when my daily routine was more flexible and we could enjoy playdates during the week as well as weekends. Now my playtime has been seriously diminished and I still feel somewhat unfulfilled.

I am currently reading the 5 love languages of children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell, which I wish I had read when my kidults were younger. The book would have shown me how I could have better met their needs to be loved in a way they value and understand. But, I am grateful to have the opportunity to read the book and make use of its wisdom, right now.

Better late than never, right?!

In fact, the kidults and I finally managed to enjoy an evening meal together. Our busy lifestyles and different schedules has made sharing suppers more difficult these days. Yet this quality time and human connection is key to our wellbeing 🙂 We all said how grateful we were to be able to chat around the table, agreed to make this shared feast a more regular ritual and then we played some crackin’ tunes and had a disco in the kitchen, while we shared the chores! 😀

So we showed our love by sharing quality time (really listening and chatting with each other without feeling rushed), acts of service (I made one of their favourite meals we haven’t eaten in absolutely ages), receiving gifts (having a meal made for them), we shared words of affirmation (by sharing stories and telling each other how proud we are of what we are all doing and sharing gratitude for the opportunity to share time together), and physical touch (big squeezy hugs).

So, what do you know now about your preferred ways to express and receive love?

What do you know now about your family and friends’ preferred ways to give and receive love?

How can you express and receive love today in a way that builds healthy, happy, harmonious relationships both with yourself and those around you?

Onwards and Lovewards xXx